There’s something so uniquely beautiful about the harbor. It’s a place of respite, safety, and preparation. It’s not where the wildest waves crash, nor where the horizon stretches in risky unknowns—but it’s where the soul anchors down, where the vessel is inspected, restored, and strengthened for journeys to come. And for many Christians navigating the waters of life and love, a harbor like this is needed, so you can invite God in to inspect your heart, restore your peace and strengthen you on your journey.
If you’re single—whether for a short season or a long one—you are not adrift, and you are not disqualified. You are docked in a sacred place, called to lean into God’s presence in a way that isn’t just temporary, but deeply transformational.
As someone who lived many years in the harbor of singleness, I (Addy) understand the mixed emotions it can bring. There’s the ache of longing, the quiet of evenings alone, the fear of “falling behind.” But there is also the joy of simplicity, the clarity of purpose, and the steady, consistent presence of God.
When we view singleness not as a detour but as a divinely appointed harbor, we begin to see it as God blessing us to have:
- Freedom to serve — No competing schedules, no split obligations. You can say yes to ministry, volunteering, and passions that make your soul come alive.
- Time for healing — The harbor is a place for self-evaluation and spiritual restoration. Prayer, therapy, reflection—these are tools that thrive in still waters.
- Clarity of identity — You are not half of a whole. You are wholly beloved and perfectly loved by a perfect Savior. In singleness, you can learn the voice of God for yourself, apart from the distractions of romantic entanglements.
- Protection from harmful patterns — Being anchored in God’s truth helps you recognize unhealthy dating cycles and allows space to break them.
- Fullness of relationship with God — This season offers uninterrupted time with your Creator. You’re never alone in the harbor. The Lord is with you, shaping and refining you in ways that prepare you for whatever voyage may come next.
In this safe harbor we can trust that God is with us:
“The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love.”
— Zephaniah 3:17 (ESV)
In this safe harbor we can trust that God is healing hurts which have caused our hearts to harden, and allowing us to have soft hearts ready to give and receive love:
“And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.”
— Ezekiel 36:26 (ESV)
In this safe harbor we can devote and commit our time and resources fully to God:
“But I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord… I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.”
— 1 Corinthians 7:32, 35 (ESV)
So, to my fellow sailors currently anchored in the harbor—breathe deeply. Look around at all God is doing in you, for you, and through you in this season. Singleness is not a waiting room; it is a holy space. It’s a sacred shoreline where God’s love is poured out, His truth is revealed, and His healing waters cleanse your heart.
Don’t rush out into the sea just because others have. Wait until your vessel is ready. Let your Anchor be Christ, and let your harbor time make you whole.
Stay tuned for the next installment in the Anchored Intentions series.
Until then, may you be held in the harbor, sheltered in His love, and anchored in His purpose.
Breakwater Blessings 
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