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Pleasing God Is Impossible Without a Restored Relationship

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Jay Downes


The Adultery of Mankind

When Adam and Eve sinned, they did more than break a command. They broke trust. They broke covenant. They turned from the God who made them, walked with them, and gave them every good thing. The fall was personal. Misery, shame, judgment, and death followed from that rupture. It was the rejection of the God they were made to love and trust.

A lot of people still think about sin mainly in terms of rule breaking. They think of God as the authority figure, themselves as the lawbreaker, and the whole problem as a matter of penalty. There is truth in that, but it does not go deep enough. Scripture gives a fuller picture. Sin is guilt before a judge, but it is also unfaithfulness toward the God who made us for himself.

That is why covenant matters. God did not create man for detached obedience. He created man for fellowship, trust, dependence, and willing love. The command in Eden was given within relationship. When mankind rebelled, the issue was not only that a command had been broken, but that the created distrusted the Creator and reached for life on his own terms.

Marriage gives us a useful picture for understanding that kind of betrayal. In marriage, there is covenant, trust, belonging, and faithfulness. Adultery is so painful because it tears through a bond. It violates what was meant to be marked by love, loyalty, and shared life. Even people who have never lived through it understand why it carries so much weight. Something sacred has been broken.

If a husband commits adultery against his wife, he cannot repair that breach by bringing flowers, offering compliments, cleaning the house, or buying gifts while the betrayal itself remains unresolved. Those actions may look positive on the surface. Some of them may even be sincere in a limited sense. But if the covenant has been shattered, those gestures do not reach the root of the problem. In some cases they deepen the offense, because they start to feel like an attempt to smooth over something that has to be faced directly and honestly.

That is much closer to our condition before God than many people realize.

Human beings often assume they can patch things up with God by being better, doing more, cleaning themselves up, becoming useful, becoming generous, or becoming religious. They think good behavior can close the distance. Scripture does not speak that way. Hebrews 11:6 says, “without faith it is impossible to please him.” That reaches beyond behavior and goes to the heart. Pleasing God is connected to trust, relationship, and rightly coming to him for who he is.

Isaiah says “all our righteous deeds are like a polluted garment” (Isaiah 64:6). That does not mean every act performed by an unbeliever is equally egregious in the same outward sense. People can still show kindness, patience, courage, generosity, and natural affection. Society would collapse without what people often call common goodness. The point is deeper than outward gestures. A work can benefit another person and still fall short of what is pleasing to God, because what pleases God is never separated from where the heart is in relation to him.

Two people can perform the same outward act. One gives money to someone in need out of love for God, gratitude to Christ, and a sincere desire to obey. The other gives money for human approval, private pride, self justification, or simple sentiment apart from any desire for God at all. The act may look the same to us. God sees further than the act. He sees the heart. He sees whether the person stands before him in faith or remains alienated from him. That is why the problem cannot be solved by piling up deeds.

Christ stands at the center of all of this.

If the problem were only that we had wrong actions to account for, then it would be easy to think in transactional terms. We owe a debt. A payment is made. The balance is cleared. There is truth in that, but it becomes too small a view when it is separated from the broken relationship sin created between us and God. Christ did not come merely to clear a record while leaving the deeper rupture untouched. He came to reconcile us to God.

The Son of God took on flesh and entered the world as the faithful man. Where Adam failed, Christ obeyed. Where we have distrusted God, wandered, resisted, and loved other things more, Christ loved the Father fully and obeyed him completely. He not only came to die for our unfaithfulness. He also came as the one human being who lived in full relational faithfulness before God.

Then he went willingly to the cross for sinners, for the adulterous… for us.

He bore the judgment that belonged to us. He stood in the place of the guilty. He gave himself so that those who had broken covenant with God could be forgiven, cleansed, and brought back. God did not ignore sin. He dealt with it fully in Christ. And he did not leave us trying to build a new standing before him by our own effort. In Christ, we are not only forgiven. We are brought into restored relationship with God because Christ was faithful in our place.

That changes the whole shape of the Christian life.

Many believers know that Jesus died for their sins, but still live as if their standing with God rises and falls with their recent performance. When they obey, they feel acceptable. When they fail, they feel pushed back out. Prayer, obedience, repentance, church life, Bible reading, and good works begin to feel like ways of repairing the relationship again and again. That is a miserable way to live, and it misunderstands the center of the gospel.

Christ does not just start as the doorway into the Christian life while our later faithfulness becomes the real basis of God’s acceptance. Christ remains the center from beginning to end. We stand before God in him. We are received in him. We are forgiven in him. We are counted righteous in him. Even our growth in holiness does not move us beyond our need for him. It deepens our understanding and appreciation of it.

That gives obedience its proper place, in a response of never ending gratitude.

A healthy marriage includes affection, trust, loyalty, and a real desire to walk in a way that honors the other person. In a far greater way, restored relationship with God produces a new kind of obedience. We begin to seek faithfulness because we love the One who loved us and gave himself for us, and because restored love changes what we want. We grieve sin more deeply because we begin to understand what it is, what it did, and what it cost. We do not treat obedience as currency. We learn to see it as the only possible response of a heart set right before its Creator.

This is why pleasing God cannot be separated from restored relationship. God is pleased by faith because faith receives him as God. Faith stops treating him as a distant authority to be managed and receives him as the Lord to whom we belong. Faith comes empty handed and clings to Christ. Faith abandons the illusion that we can make ourselves acceptable and rests in the One who made us acceptable.

From there, the Christian life begins to make sense.

We obey because the relationship has been restored. We repent because we now love the God we once resisted. We pursue holiness because our loves are being reordered. We want to be faithful because our heart is joined to the the heart of the one who was faithful. Even when we fail, we do not return to God on the basis of a new self-made offering. We return through Christ, who remains our righteousness and peace.

That is the center. God was faithful when we were not. Christ did what we could never do. He bore what we deserved and opened the way back to God. The believer’s life grows from there.

So when we ask what pleases God, the answer goes deeper than visible behavior. God is pleased with those who come to him through his Son, trust him, and walk before him in the faith Christ has made possible. Good works matter, obedience matters, and faithfulness matters, but only as the fruit of a relationship Christ himself restored. We do not win God over by our efforts. We live in grateful faithfulness because, in Christ, the broken covenant has been answered, the way back to God has been opened, and our acceptance before God rests entirely on the faithfulness of Christ, not our own.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.“

2 Corinthians 5:17 to 21

Trust in Christ: An Invitation to New Life

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2 responses to “Pleasing God Is Impossible Without a Restored Relationship”

  1. Toriola Samuel Avatar
    March 24, 2026
    Toriola Samuel

    Pls, let us know about a restored relationship with God

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    1. Jay Downes Avatar
      March 25, 2026
      Jay Downes

      Hi Toriola! Thanks for visiting and commenting! Do you mean additional information in general? There is the link at the top of the page to learn about a relationship with Christ. Or do you mean more should be included in the body of the specific article? Thanks again for commenting!

      Trust in Christ: An Invitation to New Life

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